Love Languages for a Happy Married Life

The traditional concept of matchmaking is passe. Earlier when the traditional matchmaking was in practice, family members and elders from the community found the match. Whether it was finding bride for Oriya matrimony or searching for groom for any other community, traditional matchmaking services resulted in ‘arranged marriages’. 

With the changing times and busy work schedules, many are finding partners of their choice through online matrimonial sites. Young people are using the Internet to find their partners. Love is happening online. After knowing the person well through online chatting and texting, many are getting married. 

But as mentioned earlier, lack of time and busy work life leaves little room for romance. After the initial ‘honeymoon period’, couples start having issues in their married life. Right from buying the curtains to saving for the future, serious and trivial issues start cropping up. 

To keep your marriage harmonious and ticking, follow these love languages. First and foremost, in any marriage, Words of affirmation are like life saver. For the wife, a simple line like ‘You're beautiful’ makes her day. Compliment her when she is wearing something new. The wife can also fill the love tank by saying him ‘You are my life’. Years after marriage, these may sound a little funny but it does work wonders. It simply means that you care for your partner. 

Nothing can beat like quality time. Take time out from your busy workday and take her for coffee. Spend some time together. Couples can also join some activity together to spend quality time.

Who doesn’t like receiving gifts? You will definitely like when your partner presents you something of your liking. At regular intervals, buy something for your partner. It need not be necessarily costly. The effort in buying gifts for your partner will surely fill your love tank. 

Try these simple things and see how your marriage works. Whether you had an arranged matrimonial alliance or a love marriage, these simple love languages will help couples with their marital life.

Marriages in Jat Community

The customs followed in the Jat community are those of the Vedic Aryans. Every person belonging to the Jat community shares equal social status, leaving apart the official or economic positions of people in life. To be superior in the caste, superiority in the age is the only concern. Marriages in the Jat community have always been a topic of discussion. It is a must for the Jat youngsters to marry within their own community. The caste and community along with the Jat matrimonial have been the top most concern of the Jat community.

People belonging to same gotra in the Jat community are believed to be brothers and sisters and are prohibited to marry each other.  Even marriages in the same village are not allowed even the boy and the girl does not belong to the same gotra. The bridegroom and the bride should belong to other villages, and their gotra must not be same. The best thing that has been seen in the Jat matrimony is that Jats promote widow remarriages and the widows are seen with lots of respect. The families completely back the widows and their remarriages are believed to be social obligations.

Another aspect of the Jat community is that they family system is very strong with them and you can find every Jat family living in close association with other family members. There are big families, which have definitely set examples for the other communities. This was what is seen in the villages and small towns; many of the youths have been migrating to bigger cities and are becoming self dependant if we talk about economic concerns. The civilization is advancing and education is prevalent in the society, still inter caste marriages and marriages within the same gotra is still not allowed and accepted, no matter which place you are residing!

Author: Rashmi Karan

Food Delight at Agrawal Matrimony

I recently got a chance to attend the wedding of one of my friends who is Agarwal, and she was getting married to a Punjabi guy. At the wedding, we experienced a unique mix of Agarwal matrimony and Punjabi matrimony. The rituals reflected the mix of the culture of both Punjabi and Baniya, and instead there were no confusion about what rituals should be conducted first. Everything went very smooth and it was great to see that both the families were respecting each other as well as their culture.

The bride’s family belonged to Chandni Chowk and as we know that the place is known for the age old delicacies, we experienced a lovely vegetarian delight. Though the groom’s family was a non vegetarian one, but they respected the traditions of the bride’s family and do not made any fuss over the food. There was everything ranging from starters to desserts. The starters include Paneer tikka, baked vegetables, hara kabab, different types of chats and many more. We also loved the variety of beverages, including masala lemon, soda, khas sherbet, variety of mocktails and other drinks. There was also different stall for alcohol, which was definitely flooded with people. Also there were a lot of people, including many of my friends who were there in that crowd. Many of them were busy to prepare the best cocktails for themselves.

The food was also mouthwatering and definitely very rich for which Agarwal Matrimonial is famous. The paneer recipes were awesome, and also there were stalls of the Rajasthani food, which savored our taste buds. Experiencing the authentic Rajasthani flavor was definitely the best. The Punjabi food counters also experienced so many foodies, including me, as I am a big fan of Punjabi dishes. Overall the experience of the weeding was awesome and I would definitely love to attend such intercommunity wedding, yes, for the sake of a variety of food!

Author: Rashmi Karan

Destination Weddings in Kerala

Getting married in God’s own country, Kerala is something many wish for but few can actually make it happen. Lucky are those who attend Kerala matrimony functions in the state and witness the beauty of the place. Whether you are part of a themed wedding in Kerala or a part of Kerala matrimony function, the experience of attending this will have fond memories. 

Themed wedding in Kerala near the beach is very popular. The entire wedding set-up near the beach is a mix of traditional elements from the state and some modern conveniences thrown in it.  You will find decorated elephant to bring the bridegroom. These beach weddings will also have the wedding feast served in banana leaves. Guests are also entertained with cultural dance and music programs. Classical performers are called to perform in the themed Kerala Matrimony functions. Against the backdrop of beach, the bride dressed in silk sari and the bridegroom wearing dhoti and white shirt, this is surely the picture perfect moment. What else you would require to make your wedding memorable. 

Some places in Kerala where beach wedding are famous are Alleppey, Kochi, Kovalam among others. Alleppey a beautiful Kerala town with the Arabian Sea on the west and a vast web of lagoons, lakes and freshwater rivulets make it ideal location for Kerala matrimony. The colonial town of Cochin or Kochi is lively city offers breathtaking scenic beauty. This historically rich city enjoys the sobriquet of Queen of the Arabian Sea. Its strategic location makes it easy to visit from land and sea.

In the famous wedding destinations of Kerala, how can Kovalam left behind. The beautiful black sand beach of Kovalam is ideal for hosting weddings functions in Kerala. This small beach side destination figures high in the list of tourists visiting India.

Author: Shipra

Marriage in Hindu Community of Hindi Speaking States

According to Hindu beliefs, the positions of the planets are the determining factors that favor alliances between the bride and bridegroom. In the Indian context marriages are social and not individual, because they are relatives or other family members who decide who should marry whom, and that too within the same caste, practice same religion, have studied well and holds a good job.

There are five Hindi speaking states, particularly, Delhi, U.P., M.P., Bihar and Rajasthan. These states have a perfect blend of all the religions, but the Hinduism is mostly followed by the people of these states. Unlike other religions, Hinduism is not based on beliefs and teachings; but is a broad term that defines a number of religious beliefs and customs, which have been followed by the people residing in these states and other parts of India.

The followers are free to follow any god and even if they do not want to follow any, no one has the right to force them. The beliefs and teachings of Hinduism is not defined anywhere, and the people have been following the rituals and customs, in Hindi matrimony particularly, which have been followed by their ancestors and is flexible to interpretation..

Most of the Hindu families follow the same set of rituals; the differences come with the changing states. The most common aspects of a Hindi matrimony are:

1- Fixing of wedding

2- Engagement

3- Haldi ceremony

4- Mehedi ceremony

5- Tilak

6- Varmala

7- Kanyadaan

8- Saat phere

9- Sindoordan

10- Vidaai

The wedding reception is conducted by the family of the groom to honor the bride, where there is lavish dinner. The bride and groom are showered with blessings and gifts that may include gold jewelry and household items that would be helpful in the future life of the couple.

Author: Rashmi Karan